Written By Daniel Greenfield
Cross-posted from Sultan Knish.
When American mother Melissa Bender married Pakistani Mohammad Khan, she brought three children from a previous marriage into the relationship. Today the children are in protective custody after police discovered that her 13 year old daughter, Jessie Bender wasn’t taken away by a predator, but that the predator had been right in her own house.
Mohammad Khan was planning to take Melissa and Jessie to Pakistan, where the 13 year old girl feared she would be forced into an arranged marriage. Instead she bravely went on the run and the police department appears to be doing the right thing. For now.
Had Mohammad Khan taken her to Pakistan and married her off, it would have been almost impossible for the child to escape again. Particularly from a rural area. She would have been repeatedly raped by her “husband”, beaten by her in-laws and turned into a slave. And Khan would have likely profited from the exchange. Khan didn’t just marry a middle aged woman, he married a woman with at least one girl at home. And in Pakistan that translates into a salable commodity.
Last year the British Home Secretary warned about grooming of English girls by Pakistani men.
Last month, Mohammed Liaqat and Abid Saddique, were jailed for a series of rapes and sexual assaults on young girls as young as 12.
Atma Singh, from the Sikh Community Action Network, said: “Well done to Jack Straw for being 100 per cent honest and saying what many people already know – that there are pockets of youngsters in the Pakistani Muslim community who treat girls from other communities as sexual objects.”These are not quotes from the BNP or the EDL. These come from the inside. And it’s time Americans thought seriously about what they are importing into this country.
Mohammed Shafiq, director of the Muslim youth group the Ramadan Foundation said 53 out of the last 65 convictions for grooming had involved British Pakistanis.
“The reality is that there is an issue,” he said. “There is a perception that these white girls have lesser morals and lesser values than women from Pakistani heritage.
“It’s abhorrent and there needs to be debate.”
Let’s look at how women are treated in Pakistan. In many tribal areas, rape is a punishment meted out by tribal elders. Rape convictions are virtually impossible to achieve.
Here are apolitical stories from Western women living in major cities in Pakistan.
YES I believe you would be in danger if you dressed in a skimpy way. Flashy, skimpy clothes tell men that you are a loose woman, available to all. If you are raped or attacked, the men will say you brought it on yourself by the way you dressed.That’s it. In Pakistani Muslim culture not wearing a hijab is asking to be raped. Wear a t-shirt in your own house and you’re setting yourself up for an honor killing. And even if you dress conservatively, you’ll still be molested in public on a regular basis.
It will also bring ‘shame’ on your husband and his family and may create large problems with the in-laws.
One of my friends was reprimanded for wearing capri length pajama pants and a t-shirt around the house at night. Her mother in law said it brought shame on the family.
If you’re living independently, wear whatever you want inside, but I’d suggest always answering the door in full length pants, a short sleeve shirt and a scarf. If you don’t, it is as if you are inviting men to have sexual relations with you.
Many Pakistani men already believe that Western women are loose and are all whores. Prepare to be groped in public by passing men, whether you dress conservatively or not.
What does that mean again? Here is one woman’s story from Pakistan. Be warned it is graphic, but it’s also a reflection of what daily life is like in a culture with no respect for women as human beings.
The situation is worse for non-Muslim women, particularly indigenous Christians and Western travelers, who are held to be less than human.
Do you think that magically changes when Ahmed or Mohammed moves to London or New York? It doesn’t. He only learns to be more discreet when outside his own community, otherwise the shaitan damned infidel yahood police will get him in trouble. His attitude doesn’t change. Only his tactics do.
A Pakistani immigrant in Brooklyn blackmailed his friend’s teenage daughters into having sex with him by threatening to tell their traditionalist parents they were being intimate with their boyfriends, law-enforcement sources revealed yesterday.Pakistani men are prominent in lists of sexual assaults over and over again. In Australia, the Ashfield gang rapes by four Pakistani brothers (whose father perjured himself in court to give them an alibi), their defense was that being Pakistani Muslims gave them the right to rape.
In one instance, Mohammad Naseer allegedly threatened to kill one of the Pakistani girls if she didn’t sleep with him.
“If you don’t do what I want, I will tell your father that you had sex with your boyfriend and if your father does not kill you, I will kill you. No one will find your body,” he threatened, according to court documents.
The eldest of four Pakistani gang rapist brothers has admitted lying at trial and apologised to his victims but said he thought he had a right to rape the “promiscuous” teenage girls.Here’s a direct quote from the rapist himself, which should give you a terrifying understanding of how Pakistani men think
MSK, 27, told the NSW Supreme Court yesterday that this was because the girls did not wear headscarves, were drinking alcohol and were unaccompanied when they went to his Ashfield home.
“She don’t know us, I don’t know her, like she was not related to us and she was not wearing any purdah … like she was not … covered her face, she was not wearing any headscarf and she started drinking with us and she was singing.His cultural assumption was that a girl whose face is not covered, who sings and drinks has no rights whatsoever. It’s not an unusual assumption. If it was, then Western women wouldn’t have to be afraid of visiting Pakistan.
The legal system in this case and in every case misses the point. MSK is not a rapist, he’s a Pakistani Muslim. In Pakistan rape is not a crime against a person, but against property. The father or the husband’s property. His honor. Pakistani immigrants do not recognize the same notion of equal human rights that Westerners do. You can send them to jail for rape, but you can’t force them to think like the citizens of the free world do.
The values don’t change. They’re embedded in the Koran. Mohammed married Aisha when she was 6. Half Jessie’s age. A girl who reaches puberty is widely considered marriageable in the Muslim world. MSK is confused, the way most Americans would be if they visited a foreign country and in some unclear way offended their hosts. To MSK this is a cultural misunderstanding. And so it is to most Muslim Pakistani men.
Now think about a 13 year old American girl being taken into a home with a stepfather like that. And think about all the little girls who don’t run away from home. Who do go to Pakistan. How many are they? We’ll never know. But one thing we can be sure of, their numbers is growing.
Jessie Bender was meant to be an American Aisha. Instead thanks to her own courage, and a legal system that appears to be doing the right thing, she may now have the chance to grow up, fall in love and be a free human being. That elementary right which we take for granted and that no woman living in the Muslim world ever can.
How academic is this, let’s take a brief trip from Pakistan to Egypt, home of the joyful Democratic revolution, where 98 percent of foreign women complained of being sexually harassed on a daily basis.
Let’s step back and look at those numbers for a moment. Nearly every single foreign woman who visits Egypt can expect to be sexually harassed… every single day that she is there. Where does that kind of attitude come from?
Remember Sheikh Qaradawi, who heads the Muslim Brotherhood, and is preparing to be Egypt’s Ayatollah Khomeini. The man who has managed to get more followers into Tahrir Square that any individual of the so-called leaders who the media promises us will lead Egypt to democracy, thinks that way.
Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi, the Muslim cleric currently on a controversial visit to Britain, believes that female rape victims should be punished if dressed “immodestly” when assaulted.This is the exact same rationalization used by MRK in court. It’s a universally common view throughout the Muslim world. (Now imagine how wonderful Egypt will be for women under Qaradawi. David Stein at Counter Contempt asks whether his views influenced the rape of Lara Logan.)
One question asked: “Are raped women punished in Islam?” A panel, headed by Mr al-Qaradawi, replied: “To be absolved from guilt, the raped woman must have shown some sort of good conduct . . . Islam addresses women to maintain their modesty, as not to open the door for evil.
“The Koran calls upon Muslim women in general to preserve their dignity and modesty, just to save themselves from any harassment.
And Qaradawi concedes that the reason for the Burka and the Hijab and all the rest of that garbage is so that women do their part to keep from being raped. That’s what Islamic modesty really is. A sign that reads, “I’m a decent Muslim woman, I belong to my father or my husband, please don’t rape me.”
That is what Jessie narrowly escaped in Pakistan, but it’s coming here too. It is here. In Canada, Australia, England, France and everywhere else.
This is the undeniable reality that the left refuses to acknowledge.
When a group of prominent women in Israel put out a letter urging Jewish girls not to marry Muslim men, cries of racism went up.
“There are quite a few Arab workers who give themselves Hebrew names. Yusef turns into Yosef, Samir turns into Sami, and Awabad turns into Ami. They ask to be close to you, try to find favor with you, and give you all the attention in world, they are actually here knowing to act with courtesy, acting as if they really care for you, say a good word, but their behavior is only temporary. The moment you are in their hands, in their village, under their control, everything changes.”But frankly how can even the left argue with this assessment?
“Your life will never go back to the way it was, and the attention you so desired will turn into curses, beatings, and humiliations,”
“It’s known that girls who go out with Arabs are beaten, these girls are in danger. . . . There is a violent social trend and everyone ignores it,” said the head of the group, Anat Gopstein, in a radio interview Wednesday morning.But of course liberal clergy like Gilad Kariv shrieked, “Israeli society is falling into a deep, dark pit of racism and xenophobia”.
Is there anyone who still doesn’t know it? And if women are treated just as well in the Muslim world, then why do 98 percent of foreign women in Egypt report being abused on a daily basis. There is no answer to the truth.
When Jewish women do marry Arab men, they often end up being trapped in villages, abused and degraded.
Galit met Rami Kadera, an Arab from Gaza, ten years ago when he was employed as a waiter in a wedding hall. She was just sixteen — “I knew he was an Arab but all my friends were meeting Arabs”— and thought he had Israeli citizenship and would be allowed to live in Israel. When he eventually took her and their four children back to Gaza after being forced to leave Israel, where he had been working illegally, she thought it was for a short visit, never imagining she would be taken hostage by her own husband. Instead, she found herself trapped, stripped of her documents, and routinely beaten and tortured.Sometimes they can be rescued by organizations like Yad L’Achim, but often they and their children descend into a life of permanent slavery.
…Her mother arranged to pay for the cab, and the relative made contact with the Israeli soldiers at the Erez checkpoint, explaining that an Israeli woman and three children would be passing through. When she arrived back in Israel, she was covered with bruises and weighed under a hundred pounds.
Phyllis Chesler has lived this life when she moved to Afghanistan and speaks with an insight that few others can muster.Anything. That is the source of the honor-killing.
I have talked to many American mothers who have traveled to the Muslim world to meet their husbands’ families who soon find that they cannot leave. Their passports may be taken away. They have no local resources to protect them.
Long ago, this happened to me in Kabul, Afghanistan.
He lied. One thing that Westerners find hard to believe is the ease with which many traditional Arabs and Muslims both exaggerate or lie. Think about how effective Islamist propaganda has been in the West. Then, think of how this capacity might play out in a domestic setting.
Talk to most Arab and Muslim men and you will find that the slightest departure from their being in control means that they have been victimized and must avenge their lost honor. Thus, Yazmin’s attempt to remove Sadiq’s “property” (their daughter) means that Yazmin will tarnish Sadiq’s honor. If Sadiq is like other Arab, Muslim men, he will say and do anything to avoid this.